Hello there Grimms!
Remember in June when I did my LGBTQ series for Pride Month? During the series I pledged to create more posts on this topic throughout the year on GrimmGirl not just during Pride. Hold on to your knickers everyone because we are going to be diving into a lot of topics over the course of this year. More importantly the next series of posts will shed light on sexualities and genders that weren’t discussed in my original series. Why weren’t they discussed? Because for many of the genders and sexualities we’ll be discussing there is a lot of misinformation and lack of understanding. I realized that I would need to dedicate more time to each of these posts and felt that they needed their own space.
Now let’s get down to it!
If you live in a dungeon beneath the Earth’s surface you might be unaware that Amazon Prime released a mini series based on the book Good Omens by Terry Pratchett and Neil Gaiman. The story centers around an Angel Aziraphale and Demon Crowley who decide they want to prevent Armageddon. I won’t get into all the details here because that’s not what I want to focus on. What I find really interesting is the fact that the two main characters are both nonbinary and asexual. How many books turned tv shows can you name where the main characters can claim to be either let alone both?
That’s what I thought.
Nonbinary= A term people use when they do not identify as male or female. They may prefer to use the terms they/them or they may fluctuate between expressing genders. There are many terms that someone who is nonbinary may choose to use for themselves. Some examples include gender free or agender. It’s everyone’s own choice on how they’d like to be identified.
When Good Omens first appeared a lot of people were upset when Neil didn’t identify Aziraphale and Crowley as gay but as he pointed out the fact is they aren’t. Neither of them identify as male. They don’t identify as female either. They identify as themselves. While they may wear traditional “male” clothing they don’t consider themselves male. Crowley actually chooses to present as female at certain points throughout the story.
If you were to ask Aziraphale or Crowley themselves if they were male or female they would probably both be very confused by the question and it’s relevance and simple answer that they are an angel and demon. Which is exactly how someone nonbinary would answer. I’m human, end of story. The gender of male or female isn’t necessary to them in order to define their identity. All the angels and demons in Good Omens are nonbinary so when you really think about it Terry and Neil literally created two nonbinary armies!
Isn’t that kind of awesome?
Now the fact that they are nonbinary is completely canon. Neil himself has confirmed it so that’s a huge win for the nonbinary community. The characters being asexual is more of my perspective. Neil has said they are not sexual attracted to anyone but throughout the show you can see that they have a deep love for each other not based on sexual feelings. I’m kind of putting two and two together and saying that they’re asexual. Again I’ve never heard that exact term used by either of the authors but they seem to fit the definition of asexuality.
Asexuality= Someone who doesn’t experience sexual attraction(or very little) to anyone of any gender. This is an umbrella term and can address many different things. There’s a lot of misinformation on people who identify as asexual. In much of media an asexual person is portrayed as being unable to form healthy relationships with others, antisocial, or against sex believing it to be dirty or some other moral high ground. This couldn’t be further from the truth and stems in my opinion from society’s belief that sex ultimately defines a relationship. If you don’t want to have sex there must be something wrong with you. Big eye roll there people! There is absolutely nothing wrong with not feeling sexually attracted to people in general and you can create deeply satisfying romantic and non romantic relationships without feeling sexual aroused. Sex does not define how much you care about someone.
I love that Terry and Neil have perfectly showcased that with Good Omens. Crowley and Aziraphale have been on the Earth for 6,000 years and during that time they have become closer than friends. They love each other deeply and completely. Neither of them could imagine a world without each other. They discuss how they don’t want the world to end because they have a soft spot for humanity but really I believe it’s because they don’t want to be apart from each other. They certainly don’t want to fight each other. They are in love with each other but that doesn’t mean they are sexually attracted to each other because they’re not sexually attracted to anyone.
That doesn’t make their relationship to each other any less dedicated than a couple that is having sex. One of my favorite scenes is after (SPOILERS) a fire has destroyed Aziraphale’s bookshop. Adam changes things so that everything goes back to normal… with a few differences. The first time Crowley looks around he notices a set of books and remarks, “That’s new.”
Do you realize what this means? It means that even though books aren’t really his interest he’s so attentive to Aziraphale that he knows the exact books he has in his bookshop. That’s freaking beautiful! You can’t tell me that they don’t have a completely formed and beautiful relationship just because they choose not to have sex or any other sexually charged act. Throughout the series it is completely clear that their love runs much deeper than words can express. There are so many other moments from the series I could gush over but I don’t want to ruin them for anyone who hasn’t been lucky enough to watch it yet.
I live for the fact that they are both nonbinary, asexual, main characters that have a thriving and healthy relationship with their significant other. Honestly their story is currently my favorite love story. I. really won’t condone a bad word about them.
If this post doesn’t immediately make you either read or watch Good Omens at your next available moment I don’t know what will. As for myself I am just so happy to see such a popular show normalize a nonbinary and asexual couple. I hope the success of the show will lead to more companies picking up stories with leads like this to show to the world.
See you next time Grimms!
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